I’d like to believe that I am someone who is open to change. During the month of March 2014, I had so many changes in my life that I realized I had clamped down and closed up. Kind of like the retraction or scrunching down when you know you are going to get run over, but all you do is tense-up and prepare for the worst. The events weren’t terrible, but they altered what I knew and was comfortable with. I never thought I could handle the chaos as easily as I did. However, the tensing-up definitely increased the stress I experienced – unnecessarily, I might add. I was pleased that I was stronger than I gave myself credit for.
Consider this an add-on to my earlier post on change. I now have a testimony that as we change, our ways of seeing reality will change. Interestingly, I don’t think we know, or can trace, what action creates our new, alternate reality. It’s all a chain of reactions coming from some action we have taken. Every choice, even the simplest, everyday ones keep our future in motion. Then, enough small things happen to create a bigger and more noticable difference. By the time you recognize the change, it’s either already occuring or occured. When you can identify what’s new, most of us seem to tense-up and wonder if we’re ready, or jump up and down in celebration or anger.
Body movement helps express a lot about where we are mentally and physically. While I was worried, I noticed that I went to the gym less, and was more exhausted at the end of the day. On the days I simply forced myself to go, for that sacred hour or two of just listening to music or visualizing my problems as “solved”, I left the gym in a better mood and energized. My stress required physical movement to release. Think about the times you get tense or stressed. Did your body movement slow down or your mind felt like you were always rushed? “I don’t have time to….”, “I have to get in and get out.” That little bit of activity I made myself do had a very different effect than watching TV for relaxing. I don’t know if it’s the body chemistry, or the process of teaching your mind to relax while being physically active that helps, but the difference exists. That difference made the next day easier. I can’t say that I felt any difference the day after watching “Bones” or “Castle”.
Richard Carlson wrote the book Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff and makes many good points. Two of my favorites are #18 and #26. Allow Yourself to Be Bored is 18; let yourself be bored for an hour, or even less, but don’t fight it. Boredom is gradually replaced by peace and relaxation. When your mind gets a break, it comes back stronger, sharper, more focused and creative. Set Aside Quiet Time, Every Day is 26; the amount of time can be just a couple of minutes if that’s all you can find. Sit in car before you leave a parking lot or enter the house, pull over to see the sun set, take a bath, but be alone and peaceful in order to balance the noise we hear all day. This kind of quiet time relaxes you and the feeling of being rushed lessens. The amount of time you have hasn’t changed; your reality altered.